Friday, November 6, 2015

21 Happy's Emily- it's your birthday!

She came in like a lamb.  This girl who was so quiet, you'd hardly know she was in the room.  Not many words, for anyone.  She wasn't jumping in with both feet.  Not yet at least.

Obviously unnerved by our loud, chaotic family - she needed some time to check us out.  It's a lot to ask a quite, shy teenager to trust a bunch of loud, who we are and don't care, people who love hard.

But she did- learn to trust us.  And most importantly, she learned to trust that my son loved and adored her and wanted to spend his life with her.  We reaped the benefit of that.

Over the last few years, I've watched Emily come over to the dark chaotic side of us and become an Allen.  She brings freshness and joy to our family- talks a little more, shows us her funny side and can burp with the best of them.

There's a lot I could tell you about this girl, like

  • She is beautiful- even when her hair is in "cauliflower" bun and doesn't have any makeup on- her natural beauty shines.
  • Doting is not her style- but in her own quiet way she lets you know that she loves you- if she does. There's no faking it.
  • Don't mistake her quietness for lack of attention-  her memory is elephant like.
  • She is the example for how teenage momma's can do it right.  
  • She hates washing dishes as much as I do.  
  • She doesn't like surprises- but there's been a couple that she tolerated well- even when he proposed to her in her sweat pants.

On her birthday, she posted the following: 
if you would have told me a few years back that on my 21st birthday I'd be binge watching One Tree Hill eating cookie cake with my hot husband and sick baby I would have told you you were crazy. but here I am binge watching one tree hill eating cookie cake with my hot husband and sick baby. Happy birthday to me!! #21

Like so many of us who would admit that our reality doesn't match up to our plans or expectations; Emily's life is different.  Different for her but what we hoped for.  She's our answered prayer.

So, please excuse me a minute while I talk to my girl.

Emily, call me crazy (again) but I'm so glad that your reality crossed paths with ours. I like that your sense of humor is sometimes at my expense.  I appreciate your honesty.  I watch you with your daughters and I see how you adore them and enjoy being their momma.  I no longer worry about losing my son to life and marriage, I gained you. I wouldn't trade our family Sundays for all the dish-washers in the world. Watching my son light up when he sees you or hears your name mentioned brings me great joy.

I know that life hasn't been so easy for you and as a young wife and mother life is still a struggle. There isn't enough money for the wants, and barely enough for the needs.  The sacrifices you're making now may cause you to wonder if it's worth it.

It is. It will be.

Emily, I'm proud of you.  Keep loving Jesus, loving your husband and your girls in priority order. I'm so thankful we didn't scare you away and you've now jumped into our crazy- keep loving us, because we sure love you!

Happy 21!

Happy Friday y'all!

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