It's Friday. One of my favorite writing days, because it's writing with abandon. Free writing with Lisa-Jo Baker and encouragement and good reading with friends I've never met.
We know what it means. Present means "here", right? But you can be present, and not really be there.
Several years ago the company I was working for had a internal campaign- Be Here Now. It was meant to bring focus to our clients and co-workers. To teach us to really listen in meetings, do less multi-tasking, etc. But it didn't change my work habits, I had that under control.
What it is changing, is my Mom and Wife habits.
I am the queen of multi-tasking. I can cook dinner, wash and fold laundry, catch a news story, take the dog out, make a list, enroll my kids in camp, text my BFF and talk to my mom on the house phone at the same time. What I wasn't doing well, was being present when my kids or my husband asked me a question. I realized I wasn't looking them in the eye, or even looking up when I'd throw a response at them, if I even heard what they were saying. I was present, but wasn't really there.
And being so busy doing mom stuff, I was missing some really fun moments.
I'm not as good as I want to be at "being here now" with my family. I still get side-tracked by life but I am more aware and think I'm making progress. I catch myself and try to stop and be in the moment. And look up.
And there's a lot to see.
When I am intentional about Being Here Now for my family- they give me present back. The other present- gifts. Sometimes they don't even know it. They're the moments I catch when they aren't aware. And then there are the ones we give each other- the eye to eye contact when they tell me about their day, hearing and shooing away their fears, witnessing the transformation from a boy to man, the unspoken promises my husband tells me with his eyes.
I'm a fan of present.
Happy Friday y'all!